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All of my friends have boyfriends and I feel like I should have one too, but my parents tell me I should focus on school. A boyfriend would be kind of a distraction, but it would also be nice to have someone else there that cares for me who I could let my guard down with and forget all my troubles. Is this wrong?
Hey "Boyfriend Envy",
It is not wrong that you want a boyfriend. What girl doesn't want a boyfriend? Hey, I want one too! What is wrong though is your reasoning behind why you want one. You should not want a boyfriend just because all of your other friends have one. You should also not rely on a boyfriend to forget all of your troubles (in my opinion), but rely on your family, or friends, or a counselor. If you feel like you cannot talk to either of those groups, get a journal that you can rely on to let out all your troubles on paper. One thing you must remember is that having a boyfriend is like having a puppy. They come with needs too. They also come with their own set of troubles as well. So, if you are in school and you know that a boyfriend will distract you from that then I would have to agree with your parents (ugh who wants to ever agree with parents?). How about just having a male friend? The best relationships result from friendships. Also remember that in due time your Prince Navine ("Princess and The Frog") will come, but focus on what is important. Focus on you! I saw a saying on Instagram that stated, "you attract who you become . . . take the time to become who you want in your life", so take the time to become the best you that YOU can be!
If you or someone you know needs the advice of a professional, please check out your school's psych. services or counseling office.