The Jackson Five have a song on their Christmas album of yesteryear, titled "Christmas Won't Be The Same This Year." Michael Jackson sings the solo and the lyric continues: "without her loving arms holding you so near." He is singing about a break up in a relationship, but the same sentiment rings true when we have lost a loved one in death. Christmas won't be the same this year.
The first Christmas after a loved one dies, is especially difficult. It is normal to feel empty, sad and a longing for that person. Who's going to love you like he did? Who's going to cook that special dish like she did? Who's going to laugh like only he could? Who's going to hug you or smile, like only she could? If during the season of joy and love, your heart is broken, how can Christmas be the same? Christmas may not be the same this year, but it is still Christmas. Don't underestimate the power of the love that will be shown by other family and friends. Trust God and know that He has promised to comfort you. Share your memories and smile through your tears. Reach out and comfort someone else who is hurting too.
Allow yourself to acknowledge the pain, fear, guilt, the anger, or whatever you feel. Even allow yourself to have a pity party if you need to, but do not dwell there. Reach out to someone who cares. Exercise your faith, and look up. A touch, a word, a prayer, can make all the difference. Be patient with yourself and get sufficient rest. Consider starting a new tradition in the memory of your loved one.
Michael Jackson and his music were loved by millions of people around the world. Images of his tearful, grief stricken fans were all over the TV and print media. Many were quoted expressing how much they were going to miss him and his music. People are still banning together to sing and dance to his music, etc... all to express their appreciation and to keep his memory alive. Do something this Christmas to honor and celebrate the life of your dear departed.
See next month's article which includes a poem that has blessed many who are bereaved, titled "My First Christmas In Heaven."