Criticism and judgment usually are on the tips of our tongues. It's a cultural thing, says Allan Rohlfs, an authority on non-violent communications -- also known as compassionate or collabortive communication. But there is another way, one that suspends judgment and taps into the inherent compassion of each person.
Rohlfs will be teaching an 8-week workshop on empathetic listening and non-violent communications at Friends In Deed for volunteers beginning March 17. It is part of cultivating the Friends In Deeds philosophy to foster dignity and respect in all of its services.
Allan Rohlfs, a management trainer for businesses and corporations and a psychotherapist, will begin an 8-week workshop on empathetic listening and non-violent communications March 17 at The Women's Room at Friends In Deed in Pasadena.
Also an adjunct professor at the Lutheran Theological Seminary in Chicago, Rohlfs will share ways of speaking from the heart to elicit understanding, rather than defensiveness. The series will introduce a model for presenting one's needs to another person without use of any blame, criticism or guilt.
"What a valuable tool this will be for working with the guests of The Women's Room, not to mention family and friends closest to us," says Tara Hull, director of TWR.
Rohlfs is a certified trainer from the Center for Nonviolent Communications, an international organization that has led peacemaking efforts around the globe and was founded by Michael Rosenberg during civil rights conflicts in the 1960s. The premise of the method is that habits of thinking and speaking lead to use of violence in action or speech and are learned through culture; these habits, however, can be changed by tapping into a person's inherent compassion.
"We are excited to have such a distinguished teacher as Allan Rohlfs donate his time to train our volunteers," says Donna Byrns, interim administrator of Friends In Deed. "It furthers our mission to foster dignity and respect through every service we offer."
Friends In Deed is an interfaith council that grew out of the Ecumenical Council of Pasadena Area Churches and is located at 444 E. Washington Blvd., Pasadena. It works to alleviate the effects poverty and prevent homelessness. Among its many services are the Food Pantry, Bad Weather Shelter, and The Women's Room, a daytime refuge for women who are alone and homeless or at risk of homelessness. The Women's Room is knowm for wrapping its arms around 20-35 women who come through the door each day, making them feel whole and appreciated.
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