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You Can Win the Fight But Lose the Marriage

African American news from Pasadena - Religion - Richard O. Jones on marriage - Oxy and KekeAlthough I enjoy attending weddings and kissing the bride, I believe that I would specially enjoy attending a 50th, 60th or 70th wedding anniversary. Trouble is I never been invited to such a rare and glorious occasion. However, if I had known Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher perhaps I would've been invited to their 80th anniversary. The Fishers, an African American couple, were married 86 years as of 2011 and held the Guinness Book of World Records for the longest marriage, which is ironic since African Americans are the second highest in America to divorce at 11.9 percent following closely behind American Indians and Eskimos at 12.5 percent according to the U.S. Census Bureau.

Sadly, both Herbert at 106 years old and Zelmyra and 105 have since passed away. Nevertheless, the Fishers is an example of what marriage can be when God is in the mix. Zelmyra was quoted to say in an interview, ""No secrets. There isn't any secret. It was only God that kept us together." She later said of Herbert, "He was not mean; he was not a fighter. He was quiet and kind. He was not much to look at but he was sweet." When responding to a question about staying married Herbert responded: "We were dirt poor but had each other. Marriage was no, no trouble at all. We never argued, but we might have disagreed."

The two thoughts that stand out about the Fishers are that (1) God in their lives, and (2) they didn't fight. I also noted that Zelmyra wasn't stuck on looks because she said Herbert was not much to look at but he was sweet. It would do the America Family a lot of good if married couples were like the Fishers. Too often today's couple are obsessed with good looks, money, and being in charge instead of allowing God to guide their marriage.African American news from Pasadena - Religion - Richard Jones' Oxy and Keke

[Richard O. Jones is a poet, clean comedian, author of 9 books and creator of Ox and Donkey Relationships Cards for couples in crisis. website: www.oxanddonkeyrelationcards.com email: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .]



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