Not too long ago in America, wives were considered the property of her husband. In the unfortunate cases of domestic violence, the first responders (usually the police), the courts, and even the church often took the position that the abused woman brought it on herself because she should've been more obedient and not angered her husband. Neighbors and relatives seldom got involved because it was considered a family matter.
I recall a scene from the 1982 movie, "The Color Purple," when the character 'Mister' played by Danny Glover would routinely beat Cilie, played by Whoopi Goldberg, and she accepted it as a woman's' plight. The movie was set in the early 1900s. Mister's son, Harpo, grows up and soon brings home Sofia, played by Oprah Winfrey, a proud and strong-willed woman whom he loves and later marries. But eventually, Harpo tires of Sofia not minding him. Mister tells him he has to beat Sofia if he wants her to mind. Even Celie, who is submissive and docile, agrees this is the only way to make a woman "jump when he says to." But Sofia is victorious in beating Harpo instead. Angered by Celie's suggestion, she confronts her, but her anger subsides when Sofia realizes how much Celie has suffered from Mister's cruelty.
Many misguided men of today expect their wives/girlfriends to cower in submissive obedience at his finger snap. Misinformed Christian men misused the Holy Bible to dominate their spouses. The Bible says that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the church. While I am not one to advocate couples should separate because of a minor, non-injury, single episode of domestic violence; however, family counseling and professional anger management should be sought. But at the next hint of violence even before a single tear leaves an eye the relationship should be consider over. By the action of mothers and fathers, the children learn such as Celie learned to accept abuse and Mister learned it was his right is to be abusive. Couples in volatile unions must understand that this is not God's will for them under any circumstances. Perhaps the abuser shows remorse with flowers, candlelight dinner, candy and/or romance but that's not a pass to abuse God's Temple, which our bodies are. They must repent, seek help and honor the commitment.